If you are in need of someone to talk to, our team of trained listeners is here for you. At New Horizons you can share your feelings with people who understand your grief. Get in touch to find out about our next meeting.
Upcoming EventsFEB 13CHAIR SEATED EXERCISESSAM SORRELLMAR 13DERBYSHIRE HOLIDAY HOME TALKRICKAPR 10JUST SING CHOIRRACHEL
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If you are in need of someone to talk to, our team of trained listeners is here for you. At New Horizons you can share your feelings with people who understand your grief. Get in touch to find out about our next meeting.
Upcoming EventsFEB 13CHAIR SEATED EXERCISESSAM SORRELLMAR 13DERBYSHIRE HOLIDAY HOME TALKRICKAPR 10JUST SING CHOIR RACHEL
Many people who live in the Skegness area love the idea of retirement by the sea!
Sadly for many that retirement becomes a lonely affair, when one of the couple dies and, because they have had such a good relationship with one another, they may not have built up a large group of friends who can support them through their bereavement. Family members may be working or live away from the area and the happy future they had envisaged becomes a bad dream.
As a result in 2006 we set up a non-denominational secular bereavement group called New Horizons. We meet once a month on a Thursday. We have been trained not as counsellors but as listeners through Acorn who lead a Listening Ear course, which enables us to give the precious commodity of time to those who need it.
We have a social programme each month with varied demonstrations and hand on activities, speakers and a constant stream of new things to engage with. There is the opportunity to talk together or on a one to one basis in private. It has become like a family gathering with tea and home made cakes and one lady said last month she couldn't wait for next month's meeting.
In between meetings some of the group meet up for coffee in the town and it has become a highlight in the week whilst out shopping. Many good friendships have been made, holidays taken together and many hours of chatting on the phone!
We can never have too many friends and we hope that you will not only make friends who support you, but become our friend too.
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ABOUT US
Come along to the meeting, usually held at St. Clements Community Hall, Church Road North, Skegness . Please check date & venue before coming.
You can chat to people who will offer support and comfort. Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement and feel you need someone to talk to in strict confidence, then this group could be for you.
Many people who live in the Skegness area love the idea of retirement by the sea!Sadly for many that retirement becomes a lonely affair, when one of the couple dies and, because they have had such a good relationship with one another, they may not have built up a large group of friends who can support them through their bereavement. Family members may be working or live away from the area and the happy future they had envisaged becomes a bad dream.As a result in 2006 we set up a non-denominational secular bereavement group called New Horizons. We meet once a month on a Thursday. We have been trained not as counsellors but as listeners through Acorn who lead a Listening Ear course, which enables us to give the precious commodity of time to those who need it.We have a social programme each month with varied demonstrations and hand on activities, speakers and a constant stream of new things to engage with. There is the opportunity to talk together or on a one to one basis in private. It has become like a family gathering with tea and home made cakes and one lady said last month she couldn't wait for next month's meeting.
In between meetings some of the group meet up for coffee in the town and it has become a highlight in the week whilst out shopping. Many good friendships have been made, holidays taken together and many hours of chatting on the phone!
We can never have too many friends and we hope that you will not only make friends who support you, but become our friend too.
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
ABOUT US
Understanding Your Grief
Dr Elizabeth Kubler-Ross has done a lot of work on how grief affects us and how we cope and come to terms with the death of a loved one.
She has discovered that there are 5 stages that people can go through when grieving. They are not neat and orderly. You may feel several of them going on at a time. You may swing from one stage to another. You may hardly experience some stages at all.
The Five Stages of Grief are often felt as follows:
Stage 1: DenialYou are in state of shock or numbness, unable to believe the bad news. The hospital has made a mistake or it is all a bad dream. You may still refer to the deceased in the present tense, as if still alive. This is a necessary protection mechanism to allow you time for your subconscious to accept what has happened.
“It’s not really sunk in, I can’t believe it, I think he is going to walk in the door as usual”.
Stage 2: AngerYou question “why me” and this can over shadow everything. Anger at fate, God, doctors, hospital ‘the system’ or any other person or thing that could be a scapegoat. Something or someone must be blamed. You may be angry with the person who has died. This anger is not wrong or irrational; it is part of the grieving process and needs to be expressed and resolved.
Stage 3: BargainingYou may search for an easy answer, a way out of the present, painful situation. It is often expressed as a bargain with God. There really are not any short cuts in the grieving process; it’s a journey that has to be gone through.
“God sort this situation out and I’ll turn over a new leaf. Why don’t you take me as well?”
Stage 4: DepressionAs you now begin to realise what has happened is real, you may have regrets, feelings of yearning and longing with acute pain.You may also have feelings of despair, helplessness, powerlessness and hopelessness. It really sinks in and begins to colour everything. The length of time this is experienced varies. It’s good to talk and be listened to at this stage.
“Without them there doesn't seem much point any more.”
Stage 5: AcceptanceYou are now beginning to let go of your loved one and accept their death. There are moments of happiness again; the weight begins to lift. The colour begins to return to your life. You are learning to live with the loss and you have reached a decision that life must go on.
“It’s a shame we couldn't have had longer together, but I've a lot to be thankful for”
Strong feelings and emotions are all part of the natural grieving process. It may take 2 years or possible longer for some people to reach the acceptance stage.We hope that this will help you to understand what you are going through.If you need help with this process please feel free to contact us.
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01754 810507
Come along to the meeting, usually held at St. Clements Community Hall, Church Road North, Skegness . Please check date & venue before coming.
You can chat to people who will offer support and comfort. Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement and feel you need someone to talk to in strict confidence, then this group could be for you.
Understanding Your GriefDr Elizabeth Kubler-Ross has done a lot of work on how grief affects us and how we cope and come to terms with the death of a loved one.She has discovered that there are 5 stages that people can go through when grieving. They are not neat and orderly. You may feel several of them going on at a time. You may swing from one stage to another. You may hardly experience some stages at all.
Stage 1: DenialYou are in state of shock or numbness, unable to believe the bad news. The hospital has made a mistake or it is all a bad dream. You may still refer to the deceased in the present tense, as if still alive. This is a necessary protection mechanism to allow you time for your subconscious to accept what has happened.
Stage 2: AngerYou question “why me” and this can over shadow everything. Anger at fate, God, doctors, hospital ‘the system’ or any other person or thing that could be a scapegoat. Something or someone must be blamed. You may be angry with the person who has died. This anger is not wrong or irrational; it is part of the grieving process and needs to be expressed and resolved.
“It’s not really sunk in, I can’t believe it, I think he is going to walk in the door as usual”.
Stage 3: BargainingYou may search for an easy answer, a way out of the present, painful situation. It is often expressed as a bargain with God. There really are not any short cuts in the grieving process; it’s a journey that has to be gone through.
“God sort this situation out and I’ll turn over a new leaf. Why don’t you take me as well?”
Stage 4: DepressionAs you now begin to realise what has happened is real, you may have regrets, feelings of yearning and longing with acute pain.You may also have feelings of despair, helplessness, powerlessness and hopelessness. It really sinks in and begins to colour everything. The length of time this is experienced varies. It’s good to talk and be listened to at this stage.
“Without them there doesn't seem much point any more.”
Stage 5: AcceptanceYou are now beginning to let go of your loved one and accept their death. There are moments of happiness again; the weight begins to lift. The colour begins to return to your life. You are learning to live with the loss and you have reached a decision that life must go on.
“It’s a shame we couldn't have had longer together, but I've a lot to be thankful for”
Strong feelings and emotions are all part of the natural grieving process. It may take 2 years or possible longer for some people to reach the acceptance stage.We hope that this will help you to understand what you are going through.If you need help with this process please feel free to contact us.
Come along to the meeting, usually held at St. Clements Community Hall, Church Road North, Skegness . Please check date & venue before coming.
You can chat to people who will offer support and comfort. Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement and feel you need someone to talk to in strict confidence, then this group could be for you.
Come along to the meeting, usually held at St. Clements Community Hall, Church Road North, Skegness . Please check date & venue before coming.
You can chat to people who will offer support and comfort. Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement and feel you need someone to talk to in strict confidence, then this group could be for you.
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7th November CraftOn Thursday 7th November we had a visit from Crafter Lucy Noad who with her helpers Clare & Dominique enabled 16 of us to create beaded snowflakes. Everyone enjoyed making the colourful creations & some were to be given as gifts to friends & family. What a great way to spend a cloudy grey afternoon!
Church Road NorthSkegnessPE25 2QHThe church is set back off Church Road North via a side road signposted St Clements Church and Community Hall. It can be reached by car either directly from Lincoln Road into Church Road North or from Burgh Road (A158) via Lyndhurst Avenue and left into Church Road North. There is a public footpath that runs through the churchyard from Lincoln Road to Church Road North.
We can arrange transport to the hall and accompany you on your first visit. If you would like to, bring a friend. All are welcome.
Church Road NorthSkegnessPE25 2QHThe church is set back off Church Road North via a side road signposted St Clements Church and Community Hall. It can be reached by car either directly from Lincoln Road into Church Road North or from Burgh Road (A158) via Lyndhurst Avenue and left into Church Road North. There is a public footpath that runs through the churchyard from Lincoln Road to Church Road North.
We can arrange transport to the hall and accompany you on your first visit. If you would like to, bring a friend. All are welcome.
email: hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.ukTelephone: Linda 01754 810507
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
Come along to the meeting, usually held at St. Clements Community Hall, Church Road North, Skegness . Please check date & venue before coming.
You can chat to people who will offer support and comfort. Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement and feel you need someone to talk to in strict confidence, then this group could be for you.