If you are in need of someone to talk to, our team of trained listeners is here for you.
At New Horizons you can share your feelings with people who understand your grief.
Get in touch to find out about our next meeting.
Upcoming Events
SEPT
11
OUR SKEGNESS
JOHN COWPE (see below)
OCT
16
AGM & BINGO
TERRY
NOV
6
CRAFT
DEC
11
CHRISTMAS MEAL
POPPY’S
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
01754 810507
New Horizons Poem - by Barbara Finch
Coffee Dates 2025
The Waterhole
Drummond Road 11am
•
SEPTEMBER
25
•
OCTOBER
30
•
NOVEMBER
20
John Cowpe (left) met with Eileen (centre)
a colleague from newspaper days
If you are in need of someone to
talk to, our team of trained
listeners is here for you.
At New Horizons you can share
your feelings with people who
understand your grief.
Get in touch to find out about our
next meeting.
Upcoming Events
SEPT 11
OUR SKEGNESS
JOHN COWPE
OCT
16
AGM & BINGO
TERRY
NOV 6
CRAFT
DEC
11
CHRISTMAS MEAL
POPPY’S
New Horizons Poem - by Barbara Finch
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
Coffee Dates 2025
The Waterhole
Drummond Road
11am
SEPTEMBER
25
OCTOBER
30
NOVEMBER
20
Sept 11th John Cowpe (left) met with
Eileen (centre) a colleague from their
newspaper days
Many people who live in the Skegness area love the idea of retirement
by the sea!
Sadly for many that retirement becomes a lonely affair, when one of
the couple dies and, because they have had such a good relationship
with one another, they may not have built up a large group of friends
who can support them through their bereavement.
Family members may be working or live away from the area and the
happy future they had envisaged becomes a bad dream.
As a result in 2006 we set up a non-denominational secular
bereavement group called New Horizons. We meet once a month on
a Thursday. We have been trained not as counsellors but as listeners
through Acorn who lead a Listening Ear course, which enables us to
give the precious commodity of time to those who need it.
We have a social programme each month with varied
demonstrations and hand on activities, speakers and a constant
stream of new things to engage with. There is the opportunity to talk
together or on a one to one basis in private. It has become like a
family gathering with tea and home made cakes and one lady said
last month she couldn't wait for next month's meeting.
In between meetings some of the group meet up for coffee in the town and it has become a highlight in the week whilst out shopping.
Many good friendships have been made, holidays taken together and many hours of chatting on the phone!
We can never have too many friends and we hope that you will not only make friends who support you, but become our
friend too.
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
01754 810507
ABOUT US
Come along to the meeting,
usually held at
St. Clements Community Hall,
Church Road North, Skegness .
Please check date & venue before
coming.
You can chat to people who will
offer support and comfort.
Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement
and feel you need someone to
talk to in strict confidence, then
this group could be for you.
Many people who live in the Skegness area love the idea
of retirement by the sea!
Sadly for many that retirement becomes a lonely affair,
when one of the couple dies and, because they have had
such a good relationship with one another, they may not
have built up a large group of friends who can support
them through their bereavement.
Family members may be working or live away from the
area and the happy future they had envisaged becomes
a bad dream.
As a result in 2006 we set up a non-denominational
secular bereavement group called New Horizons. We
meet once a month on a Thursday. We have been
trained not as counsellors but as listeners through Acorn
who lead a Listening Ear course, which enables us to
give the precious commodity of time to those who need
it.
We have a social programme each month with varied
demonstrations and hand on activities, speakers and a
constant stream of new things to engage with. There is
the opportunity to talk together or on a one to one basis
in private. It has become like a family gathering with tea
and home made cakes and one lady said last month she
couldn't wait for next month's meeting.
In between meetings some of
the group meet up for coffee in
the town and it has become a
highlight in the week whilst out
shopping. Many good
friendships have been made,
holidays taken together and
many hours of chatting on the
phone!
We can never have too many friends and we hope
that you will not only make friends who support
you, but become our friend too.
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
ABOUT US
Understanding Your Grief
Dr Elizabeth Kubler-Ross has done a lot of work on how grief affects us and how we cope and come to terms with the death of a loved
one.
She has discovered that there are 5 stages that people can go through when grieving. They are not neat and orderly. You may feel
several of them going on at a time. You may swing from one stage to another. You may hardly experience some stages at all.
The Five Stages of Grief are often felt as follows:
Stage 1: Denial
You are in state of shock or numbness, unable to believe the
bad news. The hospital has made a mistake or it is all a bad
dream. You may still refer to the deceased in the present tense,
as if still alive. This is a necessary protection mechanism to
allow you time for your subconscious to accept what has
happened.
“It’s not really sunk in, I can’t believe it, I think he is going to walk in the door as usual”.
Stage 2: Anger
You question “why me” and this can over shadow
everything. Anger at fate, God, doctors, hospital ‘the
system’ or any other person or thing that could be a
scapegoat. Something or someone must be blamed. You
may be angry with the person who has died. This anger
is not wrong or irrational; it is part of the grieving process
and needs to be expressed and resolved.
Stage 3: Bargaining
You may search for an easy answer, a way out of the
present, painful situation. It is often expressed as a
bargain with God. There really are not any short cuts
in the grieving process; it’s a journey that has to be
gone through.
“God sort this situation out and I’ll turn over a new leaf. Why don’t you take me as well?”
Stage 4: Depression
As you now begin to realise what has happened is real,
you may have regrets, feelings of yearning and longing
with acute pain.
You may also have feelings of despair, helplessness,
powerlessness and hopelessness.
It really sinks in and begins to colour everything.
The length of time this is experienced varies.
It’s good to talk and be listened to at this stage.
“Without them there doesn't seem much point any more.”
Stage 5: Acceptance
You are now beginning to let go of your loved one and accept
their death.
There are moments of happiness again; the weight begins to lift.
The colour begins to return to your life.
You are learning to live with the loss and you have reached a
decision that life must go on.
“It’s a shame we couldn't have had longer together, but I've a lot to be thankful for”
Strong feelings and emotions are all part of the natural grieving process. It may take 2 years or possible longer for some people to
reach the acceptance stage.
We hope that this will help you to understand what you are going through.
If you need help with this process please feel free to contact us.
JOIN US TODAY
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
01754 810507
Come along to the meeting,
usually held at
St. Clements Community Hall,
Church Road North, Skegness .
Please check date & venue before
coming.
You can chat to people who will
offer support and comfort.
Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement
and feel you need someone to
talk to in strict confidence, then
this group could be for you.
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
Understanding Your Grief
Dr Elizabeth Kubler-Ross has done a lot of work on
how grief affects us and how we cope and come to
terms with the death of a loved one.
She has discovered that there are 5 stages that
people can go through when grieving. They are not
neat and orderly. You may feel several of them going
on at a time. You may swing from one stage to
another. You may hardly experience some stages at
all.
Stage 1: Denial
You are in state of shock or numbness, unable to believe the
bad news. The hospital has made a mistake or it is all a bad
dream. You may still refer to the deceased in the present tense,
as if still alive. This is a necessary protection mechanism to
allow you time for your subconscious to accept what has
happened.
Stage 2: Anger
You question “why me” and this can over shadow everything.
Anger at fate, God, doctors, hospital ‘the system’ or any other
person or thing that could be a scapegoat. Something or
someone must be blamed. You may be angry with the person
who has died. This anger is not wrong or irrational; it is part of
the grieving process and needs to be expressed and resolved.
“It’s not really sunk in, I can’t believe it, I think he is going to
walk in the door as usual”.
Stage 3: Bargaining
You may search for an easy answer, a
way out of the present, painful situation.
It is often expressed as a bargain with
God. There really are not any short cuts
in the grieving process; it’s a journey that
has to be gone through.
“God sort this situation out and I’ll turn over a new leaf.
Why don’t you take me as well?”
Stage 4: Depression
As you now begin to realise what has happened is real, you may
have regrets, feelings of yearning and longing with acute pain.
You may also have feelings of despair, helplessness,
powerlessness and hopelessness.
It really sinks in and begins to colour everything.
The length of time this is experienced varies.
It’s good to talk and be listened to at this stage.
“Without them there doesn't seem much point any more.”
Stage 5: Acceptance
You are now beginning to let go of your loved one and accept
their death.
There are moments of happiness again; the weight begins to lift.
The colour begins to return to your life.
You are learning to live with the loss and you have reached a
decision that life must go on.
“It’s a shame we couldn't have had longer together, but I've a
lot to be thankful for”
Strong feelings and emotions are all part of the
natural grieving process. It may take 2 years or
possible longer for some people to reach the
acceptance stage.
We hope that this will help you to understand what
you are going through.
If you need help with this process please feel free
to contact us.
Come along to the
meeting, usually
held at
St. Clements
Community Hall,
Church Road
North, Skegness .
Please check date &
venue before coming.
You can chat to
people who will
offer support and
comfort.
Feel free to bring a
friend.
If you have
suffered
bereavement and
feel you need
someone to talk to
in strict
confidence, then
this group could be
for you.
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
01754 810507
EVENTS
2025
PROGRAMME
JAN
9
NEW YEAR PARTY
FEB
13
CHAIR SEATED EXERCISES
SAM SORRELL
MAR
13
DERBYSHIRE HOLIDAY HOME TALK
RICK
APR
10
JUST SING CHOIR
RACHEL
MAY
8
STRENGTH & BALANCE
KIRBY LAMBERT
JUNE
12
TALK:
U3A
JUDI
JULY
10
TRIP
THE VILLAGE
AUG
NO MEETING
SEPT
11
OUR SKEGNESS
JOHN COWPE
OCT
16
AGM & BINGO
TERRY
NOV
6
CRAFT
DEC
11
CHRISTMAS MEAL
POPPY’S
Coffee Dates 2025
The Waterhole Drummond Road 11am
JANUARY
23
FEBRUARY
27
MARCH
27
APRIL
24
MAY
22
JUNE
26
JULY
24
SEPTEMBER
25
OCTOBER
30
NOVEMBER
20
Come along to the meeting,
usually held at
St. Clements Community Hall,
Church Road North, Skegness .
Please check date & venue before
coming.
You can chat to people who will
offer support and comfort.
Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement
and feel you need someone to
talk to in strict confidence, then
this group could be for you.
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
Come along to the
meeting, usually
held at
St. Clements
Community Hall,
Church Road
North, Skegness .
Please check date &
venue before coming.
You can chat to
people who will
offer support and
comfort.
Feel free to bring a
friend.
If you have
suffered
bereavement and
feel you need
someone to talk to
in strict
confidence, then
this group could be
for you.
EVENTS
2025 PROGRAMME
JAN 9
NEW YEAR PARTY
FEB 13
CHAIR SEATED EXERCISES
SAM SORRELL
MAR 13
DERBYSHIRE HOLIDAY HOME TALK
RICK
APR 10
JUST SING CHOIR
RACHEL
MAY 8
STRENGTH & BALANCE
KIRBY LAMBERT
JUNE 12
TALK: U3A
JUDI
JULY 10
TRIP
THE VILLAGE
AUG
NO MEETING
SEPT 11
OUR SKEGNESS
JOHN COWPE
OCT 16
AGM & BINGO
TERRY
NOV 6
CRAFT
DEC 11
CHRISTMAS MEAL
POPPY’S
COFFEE DATES 2025
THE WATERHOLE
DRUMMOND ROAD
11AM
JANUARY
23
FEBRUARY
27
MARCH
27
APRIL
24
MAY
22
JUNE
26
JULY
24
SEPTEMBER
25
OCTOBER
30
NOVEMBER
20
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
01754 810507
7th November
Craft
On Thursday 7th November we had a visit from Crafter Lucy Noad
who with her helpers Clare & Dominique enabled 16 of us to create
beaded snowflakes. Everyone enjoyed making the colourful creations &
some were to be given as gifts to friends & family. What a great way to
spend a cloudy grey afternoon!
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
01754 810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
St Clements Community Hall
Church Road North Skegness PE25 2QH The church is set back off Church Road North via a side road signposted St Clements Church and Community Hall. It can be reached by car either directly from Lincoln Road into Church Road North or from Burgh Road (A158) via Lyndhurst Avenue and left into Church Road North. There is a public footpath that runs through the churchyard from Lincoln Road to Church Road North.
We can arrange transport to the hall and accompany you on your first visit. If you would like to, bring a
friend. All are welcome.
Come along to the meeting,
usually held at
St. Clements Community Hall,
Church Road North, Skegness .
Please check date & venue before
coming.
You can chat to people who will
offer support and comfort.
Feel free to bring a friend.
If you have suffered bereavement
and feel you need someone to
talk to in strict confidence, then
this group could be for you.
St Clements Community Hall
Church Road North Skegness PE25 2QH The church is set back off Church Road North via a side road signposted St Clements Church and Community Hall. It can be reached by car either directly from Lincoln Road into Church Road North or from Burgh Road (A158) via Lyndhurst Avenue and left into Church Road North. There is a public footpath that runs through the churchyard from Lincoln Road to Church Road North.
We can arrange transport to the hall and
accompany you on your first visit.
If you would like to, bring a friend. All are welcome.
email:
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
Telephone:
Linda 01754 810507
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
Come along to the
meeting, usually
held at
St. Clements
Community Hall,
Church Road
North, Skegness .
Please check date &
venue before coming.
You can chat to
people who will
offer support and
comfort.
Feel free to bring a
friend.
If you have
suffered
bereavement and
feel you need
someone to talk to
in strict
confidence, then
this group could be
for you.
01754 810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
01754810507
hello@newhorizonsbereavement.org.uk
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